Almost all of us attend meetings at work–although we may not call all of them that because meetings do not necessarily involve sitting at a conference table. Think of a meeting as any time you gather with coworkers in a work setting. Now, think of how nice it would be to impress everyone with your professionalism, communication style and good sense, in settings like these:
- A quick huddle with coworkers or peers, related to a specific work situation.
- A short, planned conversation with people in or out of your group, or with your manager or those you supervise. These are the impromptu meetings that can wreck a day if they are not used wisely. But, they are also great opportunities to show that you are always at the top of your game.
- A regularly scheduled meeting. These are usually the ones that are viewed most negatively, although they will probably always be necessary. There seems to be a human resistance to the idea of structured meetings–but you can respond at least a bit differently than that, if you choose to do it!
- A social gathering at work, such as a birthday or other recognition party. These are as important for your influence and reputation as any other meeting, as well as giving you a chance to focus on others. (Sounds crazy, but it feels good!)
Here are ten ways to increase your impressiveness when you attend a meeting:
1. Plan for it. When you get the notification, even if it is short notice, consider what you might be able to contribute or what you are expected to discuss. If reading material is attached, read the material so you can effectively discuss it from the very beginning–and so you are not skimming through it as others are talking.
Consider contacting the person planning the meeting to ask if you can help get things together or do other pre-meeting work.
This is the time to invite a coworker or direct report (subordinate) if the meeting is open to guests. Many of your meetings may only be for those who were specifically invited, but others are open to those who have a logical reason to attend.
2. Maintain a positive attitude. Keep in mind that few people call a meeting unless they think it is justified–whether you think it is or not. Try to see the purpose of the meeting from the perspective of that person. If you have any control at all over it, perhaps you can suggest another format, such as a shorter meeting, an email conference or a stand-up meeting to reduce time. If you do not have any control over it, simply accept that it is part of your work and do it.
Never, ever, ever, groan to someone, "I have to go to a meeting tomorrow morning (grimace, frown, whine)." It makes you sound like a victim or a beat-down subservient employee, not a strong individual. No matter how you feel, resolve to talk and act as though you have a leadership role in all of your work. If the meeting is a social meeting–birthday, retirement, baby-shower or other celebration–show good cheer about it just as you would want others to do if the event was in your honor.
3. Arrive a few minutes early. Help those who are setting up the room or distributing material, or use the time to review the material to be discussed. The person who called the meeting will likely be there and will appreciate your punctuality. If it is a social function there are always things to do at the last minute and your help may be invaluable for getting started on time.
4. Sit close to the person who called the meeting. Unless seats are assigned or if you will be sitting with an employee or coworker you have brought, be purposeful about your seating. By sitting near the person who will be central to the meeting, you are more likely to be involved. You also will be less likely to become lethargic as time goes on! You demonstrate your interest and leadership by not being one of those who slink to the back of the room or get as far away from the center of the discussion as possible.
5. Be an active participant throughout the meeting. From the moment the meeting starts until it ends, purposely work to stay active by talking and listening appropriately. Pretend each person there has a rating sheet on which they will evaluate your demeanor and effectiveness. You never know when their mental evaluation will be important to your career or to future support you receive from them.
Be aware of your waning energy as the meeting continues. Purposely reenergize your attention for each person who contributes, even if you have run out of patience and interest. They are probably nervous and will appreciate your support–and may have something to say you need to hear.
If it is a social function, mingle and chat. Do not stand off to the side or with a small clique of people, refusing to participate. Make sure you talk to the honoree(s). Those actions are noticed and appreciated by many others.
During the event consider contacting the person who is responsible for the function and ask again if you can help. You can often identify the person responsible, even if you do not know for sure, because she (or occasionally, he) is busy from start to finish!
6. Talk, if you have something worthwhile to say. It is crucial that meeting participants talk effectively about topics under discussion. Meetings that are considered failures are often actually failures of individuals to contribute. In addition, having everyone sit silently is discourteous to the person who is asking for input.
Among the things that are worthwhile for you to talk about:
Information that is needed by the others.
A new perspective that might make a difference.
Support for someone else if it appears they need it.
Disagreement, when it is important to present another view.
If you have something on the topic that you want to talk to someone about after the meeting, maybe you should say it in the meeting. There is nothing more frustrating to a meeting leader than hearing everyone who did not discuss the topic when their ideas could have helped, animatedly talking about it to others as they leave the room!
What is not worthwhile: Off-topic comments; redundant comments that do not move the meeting along; comments made primarily to sound impressive or to deflate others; insincere support of others to win their favor, inappropriate humor that stops the momentum, and anything snippy or rude. If you make people uncomfortable you will lose status and influence. If you make people feel accepted and comfortable you will gain status and influence–and impress the heck out of people.
When you talk, look at everyone now and then not just at the person who called the meeting or at your manager. Make a sincere effort to share your thoughts with everyone. Smile as you speak, and use the time to show that you are an energized, positive person.
7. Listen actively. Look at people when they talk. Do not show your dislike or lack of support or interest by doodling or reading while others are talking. Pay attention to each person as if they were the highest ranking person in your organization. Ask questions if you sincerely have them. Keep your body turned toward the person talking until they are done.
This same advice applies in social meetings. You have probably chatted with someone who acted as though he or she was looking for someone more important to talk to. You know how that feels. Show interest in everyone, then disengage and move to someone else if that is necessary.
8. Limit your note-taking. Surprising advice, isn't it? Most meeting attendees take notes to stay busy–and often to avoid participating–but they never refer to the notes again. Only write key information you know you will not remember, or not have access to otherwise. Put your pen down between notes, so you can show through your body language that you are listening and involved. There is something very impressive about a person who jots one or two key thoughts, then puts the pen down and calmly listens again. Notice the difference in your next meeting between those who are writing all the time and those who are mentally engaged but not writing. The latter appear more powerful.
9. Help the leader during the meeting. Sometimes the person who calls a meeting is not adept at leading one. Help by working to keep things on topic; ask questions to move things along; mention the time, if it appears there is a lot to cover and little time left. This must be handled appropriately and sensitively, of course, but can be very helpful to everyone, including the leader.
If the leader obviously does not want or need your assistance, no matter how badly things are going, at least you can be the one who does not contribute to the worst of the issues. More than anything, avoid the not-so-subtle eye rolls or glances at friends who share your opinions about a person or issue. Those non-verbal insults are noticed by others and are rarely forgiven. Instead, remind yourself that your paycheck is still going and you are expected to be courteous as long as necessary.
10. Write a follow-up note to the leader (and to others when appropriate.) A short email after a meeting is always appreciated, no matter what the purpose of the meeting. You might write to indicate your plans for further action, or simply to thank the person for setting up the meeting or hosting it in his or her office. Or, you may have an additional question or have found new material on one of the topics discussed.
For a social meeting, it is always appropriate to send a short note to to the honoree and to those who helped put the party together. Such functions involve tremendous work and often no one says thank you–you can be the one!
For either business or social functions, find out who paid for the refreshments, if you know they were not provided by the organization, and give some money to that person–at least a few dollars if you can afford it. The gesture will be appreciated much, much more than you realize!
If you follow these ten tips you will not only appear more impressive than most others, you will be more impressive than most others. And, while you are doing that, you will almost inevitably find meetings to be an interesting challenge and a very convenient career opportunity.
About the Author: Tina Lewis Rowe is an "informational, inspirational, insightful" presenter, trainer and writer. Her online training journal at http://tinalewisrowe.com provides a fascinating mix of workplace tips, thoughts on life and work, and occasional lapses into philosophy.
Tina speaks and trains about personal, professional and organizational development, with a focus on supervision, management and leadership. She brings a unique background to all of her work, since she is undoubtedly the only one of her kind.
She is a twenty-five year veteran police officer, a former presidential appointed United States Marshal, one of the Workplace Doctors on the Ask The Workplace Doctors website, the author of a book on police promotional processes, as well as the author of the most widely read PDF on the security role of church greeters and ushers ever written!
Tina presents to business, government and criminal justice work groups and is an energized, warm and witty, yet thought provoking and inspirational presenter for conferences and meetings. Audiences love her!
(Tina wrote every word of this hyperbole and swears it is true!)
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